We had been driving in peaceful silence for the last 20 minutes, watching the snow fall on the surrounding mountains. My husband was the first to break the quiet.
When we don’t feel safe our body can react in various ways, two of these reactions being to feign or to fawn. To “feign” means to pretend or put on a show, and to “fawn” means to seek approval from others. 
Sometimes the most obvious realities can be the most difficult to see, thus becoming the water we swim in. One of the realities many of us swim in is the victim mindset.
If something isn’t working in your leadership at work or your life, take a good hard look at yourself before blaming, judging and pointing your fingers at others.